In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/babyindecemberaita (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she is due in December and requested her aging parents stay in a nearby hotel or Airbnb—instead of the house they sold her—to be available for assistance with their newest grandchild.

Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for wanting my parents in town, but not at my house, while I’m adjusting to life with a newborn?” the post has received nearly 10,000 upvotes and more than 3,000 comments in the last ten hours.

“I have a great relationship with my parents,” OP began. “But they had me quite late in life and they’re both retired now, living in a beach town in the [south].”

Continuing to explain that she bought her childhood home when they moved, the original poster said she agreed to house her parents free of charge whenever they visit. The original poster also said that, when her baby arrives, she wants her parents nearby to help out with the newborn.

Housing, however, will be up to them.

“I was talking to my mom about the birth and I brought up that I would like her to be in town…and to stay for a few weeks,” OP wrote. “I’d love for my parents to come here and help around the house, with the baby, offer me the emotional support I know I’m going to need.

“She said that’d she’d be okay with staying with us for a few weeks…[but] I then told her that I didn’t mean her staying with us, just in town,” OP continued. “My mom was a little offended…and [my dad] said that accommodations [are] going to be really expensive around that time of the year.

“It had been our agreement when they sold me the house that they could stay whenever…I just don’t want them in the house,” OP added. “But I do want them in town, and I feel a little sad that they are putting money above me and their grandson.”

For a portion of new and expectant mothers, there is nobody better to show the ropes of motherhood than their own.

The first few weeks of parenthood can be grueling for both mother and child and according to Stanford Medicine Children’s Health, it is imperative that new moms have support systems in place to ensure everything goes as smoothly and healthily as possible.

“Meeting the constant needs of a newborn involves time and energy,” Stanford Medicine’s website reads. “Helpers can be family, friends, or a paid home care provider. A family member such as the new baby’s grandmother or aunt may be able to come for a few days or longer.”

Although family members can provide much-needed assistance, boundaries between new mothers and new grandparents often become muddied and a point of contention for both sides.

As a result, parenting website Very Well Family reports some new parents are hesitant to allow relatives near their newborn soon after birth, for fear of judgment, nitpicking in-laws and unwanted disruption.

In the viral Reddit post, the original poster said she only has a handful of older cousins and that her fiancé doesn’t have a relationship with his family, making her parents the only relatives available for assistance.

However, throughout the viral post’s comment section, Redditors slammed the original poster for expecting her parents to pay their way to do so.

“You’re [not the ahole] for wanting privacy with your husband as you adjust to being parents, but [you’re the ahole] for asking your parents to come but stay at a hotel without offering to pay,” Redditor u/Most_Duck4260 wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received nearly 25,000 upvotes.

“Sadly you can’t have your cake and eat it, too,” they added. “Wanting support is understandable, but…it’s unreasonable to ask them to foot the bill.”

Redditor u/SamSpayedPI, whose comment has received nearly 10,000 upvotes, echoed that sentiment.

“Either let them stay at your house, or pay for their hotel/B&B/whatever yourself,” they wrote. “I’m not saying you’re an a**hole for not wanting houseguests when you have a new baby, just that you can’t demand that they visit for an extended period…but insist that they pay their own way.”

“Have you forgotten who’s doing who the [favor]?” Redditor u/HopeByTheThroat questioned, receiving more than 7,000 upvotes.

Newsweek reached out to u/babyindecemberaita for comment.